When I first started reading about personal development, I tried to make an image of what this really meant. How can we become more satisfied with our lives? Where do we draw the line between unhappy to happy, or how are we measure our happiness rate?

I’m not going to ask myself or ask you what is happiness or how do we reach it because I believe that the great questions of life have a deeper meaning when we find the answer by ourselves. A first step into this wonderful journey is accepting ourselves the way we real are.


People tend to be hard on themselves when it comes to their jobs, their friends or their relationships. “I should have never said that”, “how could I think of such nonsense?” and many other things we say prove that we are punishing ourselves when we do something we don’t consider to be right. Obviously, we get this idea after we did or said that thing. It is in fact a good thing to be able to admit when you are wrong. There are certain categories of people who can’t do that but we’ll talk about it another time in another post. So, what happens when we’re hard on ourselves?

Well, you lose track of the way you really are. Having your standards set for a level that is too high leads to the building of a barrier between you and yourself. You forget what your values really are and there’s nothing worse than not knowing who you are.

So let’s get some certain things sort out.

You’re not perfect, deal with it. You can’t always get things done in the exact way they should be done. All you can do is look for the better solution and accept the consequences of the matter, no matter if it was the right one or the wrong one.

Different people, different points of view. Accept and sustain your own ideas in the exact way you do it for other people’s ideas. They may be different, but this doesn’t mean they are wrong. Also, always keep in mind that if someone shares a point of view concerning a certain matter, even if it proves to be an appropriate one, you can always come up with your own opinions.

Originality versus similarity. Focus on having your own original ideas. Don’t hide behind other people’s opinions.

Smile. It’s no secret that smiling keeps the spirit alive.

The only way to improve your self and develop your personality is to get in touch with the real you. If you know yourself, you’ll be able to know what you want and how to get it. So start from the beginning. You are the beginning.